Why Forgiveness is Crucial to Your Happiness
By: Sonia Devine
Your ability to forgive those who have hurt you in the past is a crucial stepping stone to your spiritual and emotional growth. Throughout the course of our lives, we collect emotional baggage. This is unavoidable, and even though it can cause us a great deal of pain, it helps us to define who we are as people; the result is, we grow even more and learn valuable lessons along the way about ourselves and others.
So there you have it – emotional baggage is an unavoidable part of all of our lives – but it’s not actually this that is the real cause of unhappiness in your life. What’s really important is how you choose to deal with that baggage, because what you do here will determine the success or failure of your future relationships.. Now, there is another very important point I want to make:
People come into our lives to teach us lessons
It’s what you do with these lessons that determines how your future will be. Think of all the people you have encountered in your life. Isn’t it funny to look back and think about the last time you saw a particular person; it may have been several years ago, and it’s quite possible that you will never again see him/her in this lifetime!The reason? Because this person has served their purpose in your life. So now that you know this, think about this; what did this person teach you? Some relationships or encounters that we have with other people last only a few days, and some last a lifetime. But either way, each experience serves a specific purpose and is extremely relevant to your life!.
Now, given that every experience we have is a lesson for us, think about the people who have hurt you in the past. Have you allowed yourself to forgive them? Or are you still holding into the emotional pain? Do you find yourself conjuring up scenes of “sweet revenge” in your mind, or worse still, acting out those scenes? Are you able to forgive and let go? If you are not, then who holds the power – you or them?
Don’t let people who have hurt you in the past have any control over your future!
When you make a choice to forgive others, you are NOT lying down and becoming a doormat, nor are you admitting that person who hurt you is in the right. Forgiveness is about taking back control of your life and not allowing your negative emotions to rule you. And forgiveness is also about letting go of all those debilitating emotions that could be responsible for sabotaging your current relationships! So ask yourself this question: Do you want to feel good? If you are still carrying feelings of resentment and anger towards someone who hurt you, then what are you getting out of it?
Hanging on to feelings of resentment, hatred or anger, will ensure that these destructive feelings WILL spill over into your current life and stop you from enjoying positive, successful relationships with other people.
The fact is, your subconscious mind never ignores negative energy and emotions. It will remind you every day that you need to deal with them, and until you do, it will manifest your unresolved emotional pain through insomnia, chronic physical pain and in extreme cases, through life threatening illness. So there it is; make a decision today to take back your life by practising forgiveness. Your energy is extremely precious so don’t allow yourself to give it away to those who don’t deserve to have it it! Move on with your life today, and you will experience miracles.
Author Bio
Sonia Devine is a qualified professional hypnotherapist and success coach with a caring and committed approach to healing, who lives in Melbourne, Australia. You can find more of her information on attracting wealth, self image, love, relationships, phobias and much more on her website
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For many people forgiveness is one of the hardest steps of all in our progress toward freedom of spirit. Yet it is essential. For as long as we are unable to forgive, we keep ourselves chained to the other person:
1.We give them rent-free space in our minds.
2.We give them emotional shackles on our hearts
3.We allow them to torment us in the waking hours of the night.
When it’s time to move on, but still too hard, try these 3 steps
1. Understand that forgiving does not mean the other person has won. Forgiving others is more for you, not them. It releases the burden and doesn’t give an excuse or make acceptable the wrong that was done too you.
2. Recognize you are the only one being hurt by your non-forgiveness. Does the other person burn with your anger, feel the knot in your stomach, experience the cycling and recycling of your thoughts as you re-experience the events in your mindDo they stay awake as you rehearse in your mind what you would like to say or do to ‘punish’ them? No, the pain is all yours.
3. Do not require to know ‘why’ as a prerequisite to forgiveness. Knowing why the behavior happened is unlikely to lessen the pain, because the pain came at a time when you did not know why anyways. In many cases, even the perpetrator doesn’t know why. So don’t waste valuable energy looking for logical explanations
Stay tuned for the the next 3 Steps coming soon
Chaplain Steve
www.alwaysforgivenbailbonds.com
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What would you do if a grocery store tried charging you $100 dollars for a dozen eggs? Would you complain? Would ask the manager if it’s a mistake or misprint? Or would just keep walking by to the next aisle like most of us and say nothing?
Whatever you do or don’t do, I’m certain you’re not going to pay the $100 asking price. So what will you do when you learn the high price of unforgiveness? Are you willing to pay a high price for it?
Here the #1 reason why the cost of unforgiveness is too high to pay.
1. If we don’t Forgive others, God won’t Forgive Us
Jesus said it best in Luke 11: 2 – 4: “Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us.”
If we don’t forgive others for the wrongs they do us, God isn’t going to forgive our sins either. The Early Church Fathers thought it important enough to recite starting in the 1st Century AD and which carried over to the Roman Catholic Church, a prayer called the Our Father.
Think of it this way. If we disqualify our self from God’s forgiveness of our sins, what happens after we die? Do we get into heaven with unforgiveness in our hearts? My friend, if God doesn’t forgive our sins, we have no hope of eternal life with him. We have no hope of meeting our family members who’ve died before us. Can you imagine yourself separated from God, Jesus, The Apostles and everyone else for all eternity. That’s too high of a price to pay!
How about the story in the Gospel of Matthew when the Master forgave the servant of a huge debt. The servant then turned around and refused to forgive his friend for a small debt. When the Master learned of this, he became angry. He turned the servant over to the jailers to be tortured until he could pay back all that he owed. Matt 18:34
That’s a double Whammy! The original debt the Master had forgiven, was now restored on the books. The servant who received forgiveness, then showed no forgiveness to his friend, has to repay the original money owed. That’s too high a Price to Pay!
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